Bill Cosby – July, 2015
Word is spreading like wildfire today that in 2005, Bill Cosby admitted to purchasing Quaaludes with the intention of drugging women with whom he wished to have sex .
I am writing this today, not to speculate on his guilt or innocence, but instead to address a critical dynamic. When multiple rape allegations against Mr. Cosby arose a year or two ago, I had conversations with various people who insisted that the accusers were fabricating their stories. So many people were incredulous that our dear, old Mr. Huxtable was capable of committing these heinous crimes against women. I often would question their disbelief, and I would be met with reasoning that perpetuated myths across the board.
“Why would he ever do something like that? He’s a nice guy.”
“Those women are just out looking for money or their 15 minutes of fame.”
“If it really happened, why did they wait so long to come forward?”
“Bill Cosby is one of the biggest entertainers out there. No way.”
Suddenly today I’m watching people with their mouths agape, shaking their heads, and waking up to the possibility that yes, Bill Cosby could possibly have raped women. Dozens of them.
Predators have no one profile. They have no singular race, gender, or socioeconomic status. People still tend to believe that a predator looks like a monster. Quite the contrary; the majority of the time, predators are charismatic, manipulative people , often holding positions of power.
Many times victims are blamed, are not believed, or are scorned for speaking their truths. What a cruel world we live in – to perpetuate a silence that can undoubtedly damage a victim’s very soul. I suppose if we start believing all the victims of sexual crimes in the world, the accountability that would need to be constructed would require a major overhaul with many systems.
I do not know if Bill Cosby is guilty or innocent of these crimes. What I do know is that we have a lot of work to do to educate people on sexual violence, predators, and victim advocacy. We all need to speak up about what’s right and look out for each other. That may be a start…